Hockey Fixation reader Terry recently posted this comment: "What do you really do when your tennis partner informs you of that your serve isn't so good so she won't have fun with net? I have an awesome serve, and she was just wanting to be mean, or she just didn't wish to play up at online. "
Oh, Terry. While I love playing an array of tennis, your comment can be described as perfect example of why I like to doubles so much. Peoples' true personalities ended up when you partner up with them for a competitive tennis game match. And nothing brings out there a tennis partner's true personality superior to being in a competitive match where she or he is losing.
And it appears that will Terry got an in close proximity and personal look in her partner's true temperament. And what she watched wasn't pretty. But guess what happens Terry? If you play doubles for any period, it's bound to appear. At some point, you'll get paired with... the worst type of doubles partner ever.
And I can promise you that the worst doubles partner is not the one with the lowest amount of amount of tennis competency. The worst partner is absolutely not the one in the poorest condition. The worst partner is simply not the one who is blissfully unacquainted with strategy, tactics and/or in the court positioning. The worst partner is not really even the one who arrives to the match 15 minutes late, clueless as to why her tardiness is indeed stressful for everyone altogether different.
The worst tennis partner doesn't care about how pair of you function as a team. The whole partnership dynamic thing went out the window with this player. The worst tennis partner is there to it for him or even herself, not for your team and not necessarily for you.
Now, that is my personal opinion. And you'll differ with me within this. But I can inform you of that I have played with lots and lots of people. And this is the kind of partner that I absolutely can't stand and locate almost impossible to deal with.
My advice on how you can approach this type of partner is not really very pretty. I'm sure the majority of you won't find the application too helpful. But this is one of those "face reality" situations where you just need to make the best of it. So here's how You have to deal with this accomplice:
1. Realize that you do not win this match. With the worst partner ever, you will find a very low likelihood involving winning the match. And that's because your spouse is not working for you. He or she can be working against you. Doubles requires lots and a lot of constant teamwork. But you can't band together as a team if you hardly speak to each other in a civil fashion. I'm not saying it's a given you do lose. Just that your probability of winning go way down with any such partner.
2. Accept that you will never change your partner. You often realize you're playing with this partner in the course of the match. And anything you say or do to "help" that player realize the problem she or he is causing may just create matters worse. I think that's because this partner is playing their own mind games – whether they're beating themselves all the way up over how poorly their particular play is going or they're frustrated at the quality of time they believe they're wasting playing with you. It's unlikely that you'll be capable of change these mysterious imagined patterns, certainly not in the midst of a match.
3. Suck up the criticism and carry with. When you are playing with this type of partner, you have to be pretty tough mentally. Because this partner's remarks will help you to play mind games with yourself as opposed to concentrating on the fit. Just look at Terri's condition. Once her partner shared with her that her serve wasn't any good, Terri began questioning the products her serve, her partner's feeling of her serve, and her partner's unwillingness to play in the net. All of most are unproductive thoughts that distracted Terri from ideas happening on the court. And when those type thoughts are filling bonce, it's difficult to think about tips to do to win the point. The best thing can be done for yourself is position this partner's remarks through the head, commit to playing your game and carry on with.
Well, Terri, I know these tips won't prevent you from the need to play with the "worst accomplice ever" again, but Lets hope it helps you cope with that situation a small better. Just know that it's something that happens to all doubles players on one occasion or another. And any partner which thinks that belittling your serve (or any other part of your game) is going to make you play better may be dealing with his own self-esteem issues.
Mind you, in the post, I HATE My Tennis Accomplice!, I have six advise for playing with a "mismatched" significant other, someone who doesn't play about the same level as you. And I think all those tips are helpful providing you're playing with someone with is not being an inconsiderate snazzy jerk.
Leave me a comment and let me know who's the worst partner you've ever messed around with and how you managed it (or how it blew up inside your face).
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